About four weeks ago
we solicited your involvement in a study
regarding way
top
/
bottom
/ switch terminology can be used (or otherwise not!) within queer females & trans individuals’ sexual physical lives and communities. There are loads of possibilities within the survey so that you can discuss besides your choice-from-multiple choices, additionally your unrestricted solutions.

For instance, you had been liberated to tell me exactly what your detection as leading, Bottom, turn or “not one of the Above” designed to you. I asked “anything otherwise you wanna reveal about you have got intercourse” on page three, and also at the conclusion the survey I asked “anything more you wanna inform us?” generally you told you you like Autostraddle, which, thank you really; or reminded me that St. Paul erasure is a concern that I happened to be perpetuating by writing Minneapolis instead of “Minneapolis/St.Paul” and you understand what, thank you so much a great deal, I didn’t understand that! (and also for the record, i am from the Midwest, thus.)

Very, the sentences below had been torn mercilessly out of framework from your unrestricted answers to questions regarding your own intimate behavior and identity plus questions regarding the manner in which you would determine numerous sexual terms and conditions. I’ve switched fragments into comprehensive sentences and made spelling modifications if it felt like the proper move to make.

Please note that the addition of a thought on this list is certainly not an endorsement of that idea.

1.

I do believe we must restore the term ‘Kiki’ for switch ’cause it is pretty

2.

I am a Gemini exactly who can not keep their particular throat closed actually during oral

3.

My personal ex truly desired butt stuff done to her, this is exactly why she actually is my ex

4.

A former sub of mine as soon as outlined me personally as “Xena the Warrior English Teacher.”

5.

YES I’ve been passing away to share with some one regarding how my spouse and I at long last found a reputation in regards to our brand-new dildo and it’s really Antoni

6.

I’m very delighted I am a lesbian.

7.

I’m hitched today and my partner would state i’m a bottom. Indeed, whenever we summary our leftover pizza, she usually puts my own on the bottom because of this.

8.

I did not recognize how dull or boring my family and I are so….thanks? STONEWALL had been A-RIOT

9.

inside hell schedule, have just as much queer gender that you can. almost anything to create life even worse for mike pence and much better for us <3

10.

If I you shouldn’t concentrate and psychologically force me in the future, i cannot. Does not matter how much arousal i am receiving or exactly how good it really is, in the event the mindful decision is not truth be told there, I just you should not orgasm. Trust me, many previous associates have chosen to take that as a challenge. Require a person’s pride deflated? Your ex thinks they’re goodness’s present to intercourse? I will be today getting earnings!!

11.

The always better when Beyonce is actually playing. (Self named album however, I am not a monster)

12.

In addition we misread “pain change” as “pain witch”, so i recognize as that, now, demonstrably.

14.

Getting a premier implies that Really don’t use jeans

15.

pillow princesses are braver as compared to United States marines

16.

Everyone loves my personal small leading gf!

17.

“i in the morning a bottom and in addition an alpha which means I really don’t mind obtaining dunked on providing you accept i hop raised above you.”
@hellenorosevelt
mentioned it initial.

[ed. note: take note which our beloved buddy hellen included ”
@hellenorosevelt
mentioned it very first” to her own unrestricted feedback, which was not an article inclusion.]

18.

I’m a large furious femme leading really into shy butch soles

19.

We mommy domme more often today. In my opinion my personal subs seek a spot of convenience inside awful time.

20.

Oh god, I am not sure what any of these words imply! I’m about to turn 30, will it be happening? Have always been I getting one of these simple endearing outdated homosexual men trying to understand the words the students gays are utilising?

21.

We PRACTICALLY DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT THESE TERMS MEAN IN THE CONTEXT OF LADIES SETTING IT UP ON. KINDLY HELP ME!!!!!

22.

… the gender we is simply the gender there is, you are aware? Thus I’m style of taking a stab at night with all of these concerns. I assume it’s a study that is certainly variety of the purpose but i can not assist but feel i will end up being graded! F ON GAY LINGO, I SHALL NEVER GET the LESBIAN DEGREE NOW. Nevertheless, i suppose i am a top.

23.

You are sure that that bout of the

L Keyword

while they are on sail, and Shane and this writer sneak off to hook up, then again understand both are surfaces and determine never to in fact hook-up, but simply inform every person they performed? That’s happened certainly to me a few times.

24.

The L Word instructed myself queer connections are common switchy performed they lead myself astray?

25.

I adore generating my lover feel well but occasionally my personal mouth / wrist / face pains HELP

26.

When I found myself receiving a glorious fisting, and I had been very vocal that dogs figured out ideas on how to start the bedroom home to check that I happened to be okay.

27.

among my kitties likes to put right alongside my wife and I while we get it on. she merely stares at all of us and purrs. kitties are unusual and kinda scary huh?

28.

Four weeks before, a cis guy I had been matchmaking for three months broke up with me personally via text SPELLING our IDENTITY WRONG and therefore sex was actually fantastic, but WOW I’m I glad to-be fucking within my regular queer number of “women and nonbinary people (regardless of genitalia)” now

29.

Oftentimes personally i think like a leading but sometimes i would like an Amazon to put me over her neck and carry me personally returning to her spot.

30.

Ways We have gender is a lot like a tornado in a bottle, analogously extreme and all-consuming but without having the damage and demise

31.

Lately we hold sex after enjoying flicks with lesbians. This was started soon after we viewed Carol. Its very a pleasurable pattern.

32.

I’ve had a moment in time in which every ex I have outdated in my own town was in alike area talking to both. Do not go out in a little town.

33.

God we miss females and I do not know what I’m performing using my existence.

34.

My personal arms tend to be FRAGILE and I also get SICK over the top

35.

Often i actually do her, occasionally she really does me personally, sometimes we do one another in one time….and sometimes we just take in a beer and cuddle because that’s amazing as well

36.

Be homosexual, perform criminal activities!

37.

No butt things

38.

Spring arrives about and it has becoming ON A DAILY BASIS

39.

Intercourse is generally some thing people delude on their own into assuming is for shared attention when it is more often about imposing common suffering, exploiting another individual to participate in petty and unnecessary psychosexual dramas. And unnecessary are iffy on the common part.

40.

Needs murder

41.

Well!

42.

I am 100% switchy for lifetime. My spouse is actually a bottom. This occasionally triggers tantrums

43.

My gf and I also tend to be both soles so it is a discussion.

44.

My sweetheart and that I have made multiple jokes lately regarding what matters as topping and regarding what either folks tend to be because your first couple of months people getting intimately active, we each considered our selves as surfaces and the additional one as soles

45.

Was not on the listing above but is obvious we do not scissor. We tried it when and it also DID NOT work for you.

46.

I enjoy scissor, I can’t believe you didn’t consist of such a thing humping relevant on this subject study. Occasionally as I grind upon my sweetheart’s leg In my opinion “give thanks to god I’m a lesbian”

47.


Responding to “How could you determine “switch”?”

“you understand the will most likely Smith tune “Switch” from 2005? It really is that way”

48.


As a result to “How would you define “leading”?

“It really is an use, Mario”

49.

My sweetheart can be so attractive that I however get anxious and don’t begin sex as much as I want to

51.

Autostraddle causes my center get mushy and I have actually crushes on like 90percent of your article writers

52.

Filling in the rest of this study was weird sufficient personally, my personal catholic upbringing is actually cringing at seeing this all written down. This is one way much I favor all of you. You’re welcome.

53.

I’d determine “bottom” since the individual “receiving”? Perhaps? Frankly I wondered if I should Google, but didnt desire that search on might work internet machine

54.

now I’m distracted contemplating intercourse and cannot focus on might work THX GUYS

55.

I can’t think of every specific various other terms I prefer to explain the way I have sex. But I’m certain we’ll imagine a number of when we distribute the study.